Daily Nugget #218
who decides the should’s
who or what the hell is the invisible force of judgment
that makes us feel that we ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t?
it puts a lot of pressure on us.
pressure that makes no sense.
why would anyone be standing there
wagging their finger at us
if we choose to cruise Facebook
binge watch netflix
instead of meditating?
we feel the invisible should-force keeping us standing
when we’d really like to
sit the hell down
lay down and doze off
be perfectly ok with it.
if it’s sunny, i should be outside.
i really should be doing yoga.
i shouldn’t eat that.
what was that book i was ‘supposed’ to read?
why do we think we are broken
less than <
because we are not doing this or that.
vegan. paleo. raw.
eliminating toxic everythings.
fuck if i forget my grocery bag.
i’m definitely going to hell now.
the shoulds are one of THE most toxic ingredients
in our mental/emotional world!
feeding the endless cycle of:
i am not good enough.
we sure have a strange way of doing things.
well, what the hell is a should-er like me to do?
the should monster crept in
i shifted to:
wait a minute. get out of my head.
i AM enough. i am doing enough.
if i really want to do <or not do> this or that
it is my choice!
so FUCK OFF, SHOULD.
take it from a should-er in recovery
the poisonous belief that we are NOT enough
just isn’t true.
most Americans are over achieving
that still feels like not enough.
what we really don’t have enough of is:
love for ourselves.
acceptance for what is.
acceptance of our limits!
acceptance of our Truth.
i made a pact with myself a few years ago
to LAY OFF the harsh self judgment
trust that in any given moment
i did the best that i could
some things i don’t want in my life
because they aren’t right for me.
i set goals most days
and if i don’t get my to-do list done
there’s tomorrow and the next day.
i make sure to nourish myself with:
sleep. exercise. and yummy foods <even if they aren’t paleo. ha!>
play time & as much giggling as possible.
it all comes back to the self.
paying attention to what feels right and what doesn’t.
we are individuals. there is no formula that works for everyone.
always check in to how you are really feeling.
always be willing to stand up for what that is
be willing to say ‘FUCK OFF’
to the energy sucking
life force draining
you are NOT alone.
i love you.
i believe in you.
i honor who you really are
make the pact.
you are the most important relationship in your life.
hugs and fist bumps for this wild ride we are ALL on.
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